2018 sex resolutions!

It’s a new year and a perfect time to set new goals. I’ve got some general ones like being more active, eating healthier, and staying on top of things with my bullet journal. But this year I also decided to make some sex-specific resolutions!


1. Make and analyze an orgasm spreadsheet

Some other bloggers like Kate and Taryn have written about their sex spreadsheets and it sounds fascinating and insightful. Keeping track of this will appease my inner stats geek, and I’m interested in what I can potentially learn about my habits and preferences. It will also be helpful for blogging purposes since I can use the data to write more accurately  about my experiences with the toys I review. I’ve started one, a snippet of which is pictured above.


2. Try toys that have been on my wishlist forever

You may be surprised to hear that I’ve never tried the famous Magic Wand. But it’s true, and something I want to finally get around to doing.

For a while now I’ve been curious about trying a clit pump. After hearing what Epiphora and her friend Sid had to say about them, I don’t know how much I’ll really get out of using it. But no matter what I’m sure it will be an interesting experience!

I would really like to get some Liberator furniture this year. Especially with my back and joint pain I think this could be really useful for me.

After trying the Kinklab Neon Wand, I’m excited to try more electrostimulation toys. I want to get the flogger attachment for my Neon Wand, and would like to try an e-stim vibrator too.

I also want to check out some more affordable toys. I’d like find out if some inexpensive vibes I’ve had my eye on are as rumbly as folks say they are. Finding more inexpensive soft silicone dildos would be awesome too.


3. Explore my kinks

For a long time I’ve had a thing for spanking and impact play. But it’s something that I end up fantasizing about more than actually doing IRL. So ideally I would like to be doing it more often, and I want to try different kinds of impact toys.

I’d like to acquire more bondage gear. More pretty cuffs, harnesses, and paddles, please!

I’ve also been interested in rope bondage and I’m going to learn at least some basic techniques this year. I recently found out an acquaintance of mine is involved the local kink community and is talented with rope, so I’m hoping she can teach me some things.

Like I mentioned in a previous post, listening to podcasts like The Dildorks really gets me thinking about stuff I’m into, or could be into! So I’ll be taking note of what inspires me in that bullet journal I mentioned.


4. Harness the power of orgasms to manage my mental health more effectively

Sex and masturbation play a key role in my mental health. It can relieve a lot of stress and anxiety, and give me something to feel good about when I’m depressed.  It can be easy to neglect these needs when things get hectic, but this year I’ll be more careful about making it a priority. No more weeks going by without orgasms for me.

Kink, and impact play specifically, can be very cathartic and relaxing. Another reason why goal #3 up there is important.

And, of course, I will keep practicing sexy self-care.


5. Practice mindful masturbation

My final sex goal for 2018 is to take things slow more often and enjoy more mindful masturbation. Too often when I masturbate it’s a “get off quickly to relieve some stress” or “I just need to test this toy again real quick” type of situation. That’s all fine and dandy but I want to occasionally have experiences where I can focus more on pleasurable sensations and relaxation. Especially if I’m able to get off regularly, like I plan on doing for goal #4, slowing down and focusing shouldn’t be too difficult.


Do you have any sex goals for 2018? Let me know in the comments or on Twitter


P.S. This post is sponsored but, as always, all writing and opinions are my own.

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